Friday, April 5, 2013
Someone Who Understands
As soon as I started this blog and started talking about my son, lots of moms reached out to me to talk about their own children. We all hope and pray that our children will be born with ten fingers and toes, functioning eyes, ears, nose and everything in between. When that doesn't happen, there are a lot of feeling that go along with it. Some of those feelings, however, are taboo. Some you think you aren't supposed to have, and some you just don't feel like anyone else could understand. So...you keep them inside and don't talk about them, and sometimes that just sucks.
I recently had a conversation with another mommy. Not every part of her child's body functions the way in which it was intended. We talked about a lot of things regarding our children, and I felt I was able to be honest with her about some of my feelings, fears and frustrations. She did the same. We talked about insurance, and some of the ridiculous things people say or do regarding our children.
I walked away from that conversation breathing a little sigh of relief. Truth be told, it changed nothing about my son's condition, treatment or possible outcomes. What it did, however, was bolster his mother for one more fight with insurance, one more explanation about his treatment, or one more night holding my child while he's in pain.
I encourage parents to TALK to one another. About all of it. I promise you are not the only person who has felt the way you do, is scared of what you fear, or feels frustrated. It feels better, in some ways, to know someone really does understand how you feel. I'm glad mommies reach out to me because of this blog, and I hope even one conversation has helped one mommy the way my recent conversation helped me.